You may be a newlywed or someone who has been married a long time. You want so much for that marriage to be better. Regardless of how long you have been married, you know that your marriage could use a little work, or you many even need a total makeover.
Let’s face it. It may be hard to believe, but most of the reasons that your marriage is not as you would like, falls on the husband’s shoulders. He is the head of the house; thus, the marital relationship goes the way that the husband leads. Bob Orben shares a humorous story, that emphasizes this fact: “I stopped criticizing my wife’s cooking after her very first meal. I said, ‘How come you don’t make the kind of pie filling my mother used to make?’ And she said, ‘How come you don’t make the same kind of dough that my father used to make.’” Ha! Ha! You smile, but the truth be told, you husbands have said something similar before. You open your mouth, when the best plan of action was to keep it shut.
You need to treat your wife with more respect. You should treat her the same way you treat yourself. You treat yourself by doing what you want to do, when you want to do it. “Nevertheless, let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband” (Ephesians 5:33, NKJV). Husbands are told to love their wives, just as you love and take care for your every need. You wives are to respect your husbands. Both of these actions, for the husband and for the wife, are to be done in the way you treat one another and by your words. Your speech counts, in the way you say it, as much as what is said.
You want a better marriage? It is up to you to make that happen. Today is a great time to start!
